5 Dating Mistakes That Lead to Heartbreak
and how a matchmaker can determine the "perfect match" based on a couples aura
“You have to get your heart broken once in your life.” A girlfriend of mine told my younger sister a few years ago. I rolled my eyes and shook my head. I thought back to all the times I got my heart broken, and one thing stood out to me. I knew at some point in the relationship or the dating stage that this man was not right for me. I always, always knew. But I ignored my gut, I ignored my intuition, because there was still a part of me that hoped things would turn out differently.
Yes, there are no guarantees in relationships; sometimes you really never know. However, I want to say 90% of the time (to be modest), your intuition picks up on something, you see signs, and something begins to feel off. But in case you don’t know the signs to look for, I’m here to give you the most common mistakes women make that can lead to heartbreak.
Just like when you get in the car and put on your seatbelt to protect yourself from an accident, it doesn’t guarantee you won’t be injured, you still do it. This is how you need to approach dating. The mistakes I talk about in this video and on this week's podcast episode will not guarantee you will never get heartbroken, but they will protect you and help you avoid unnecessary heartbreak when you know exactly what to look for.
Everything else in life is met with strategy, intention, and has some sort of guide. Think of when you study for a test, or prepare for a job interview, you follow information and strategy to get the best possible outcome. It is the same with dating, and that is what I hope to teach you in today's lesson. You can protect yourself, you can prepare, and set yourself up for success. You just need to know what to look for.
The five dating mistakes mentioned in the video below:
Falling in love with who he is, not what he does for you
Prioritizing chemistry and feelings, not your standards
Entering an exclusive relationship without a plan
Auditioning for the girlfriend or wifey role
Focusing on his words and not his actions
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📚Currently Reading: The Matchmaker by Elin Hilderbrand
I decided to take a break from self-help and personal development books this summer. I’ve been overwhelmed with my social life, working, and building my brand and business. I need less pressure at this moment in my life. So I decided to pick up a few romance beach reads from the library and am halfway through the Matchmaker, which is so relevant to my content and what’s going on in the dating scene today. Matchmaking seems to be making a comeback—or at least it’s more accessible and popular with the use of social media. This story is about a married woman who lives in Nantucket, and her ex-boyfriend from high school/college comes back after not speaking for over twenty years. She has this rare gift where she’s able to see either a green aura (not a perfect match) or a pink aura (perfect match) when analyzing people and couples. She matched over 40 people, and all of them have stayed married, and the people she warned not to get married or date have never worked out. It made me think of this book I read a few months ago about how some people can pick up energies easily and actually see auras as well. For example, if someone is going through depression, they would see a foggy aura. Anyway, while this book sounds woo woo, which there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s not like that at all, and it’s just a comforting story set on a beautiful island that I hope to visit one day. I love Elin Hilderbrand books in general, and this one is no exception.
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