How to Know if a Man is Lying or Pretending to Get What He Wants

The Science and Psychology Behind Manipulation and Deception

One of the most common questions women ask when approaching dating is whether the man they are dating is genuinely interested in pursuing something long-term or if it’s a ruse to get what they want.

First, in simple terms, if a man is genuinely interested in something long-term with you, it will be obvious, and his actions will be consistent over an extended period of time. (3+ months)

But, to be more specific, I am going to break down the psychological and behavioral factors that influence a relationship and the signs to look out for so you’re not left three months deep into a one-sided attachment or surprised by the man you’re sitting next to one year into a committed relationship.

First, let’s look at some common motivators as to why a man would lie in the first place. Knowing common motivators will help you identify where to set boundaries.

Common Motivators: Wants intimacy with you, financial gain, social boost, insecure and lonely and wants a woman to make him feel better about himself.

The first thing we are going to look at is the timeline of how men pretend to get what they want. The first few months in the early stages of dating are crucial in spotting red flags and signs of deception.

A man who is pretending rather than genuinely invested in you often follows a predictable pattern backed by science and psychology. Here’s a timeline breakdown of how manipulation typically unfolds: